Validation for self from others
How many times have you waited for someone to reply to the message you wrote, but never received it?
How many times have you dressed up for someone, waiting to hear from them that you're beautiful?
How many times have you waited for someone's call, so that they make you feel happy?
How many times have you waited for someone to appreciate the work you're doing, so it's easier for you to continue doing it?
With the reply that never came, the compliment you didn't hear, the phone call that wasn't intended, and the appreciation that was held back – you and I, we lost our self-worth.
Since kindergarten, we began to associate our self-worth with the golden stars our teachers gave us.
By middle school, this turned into how popular people thought we were and by college, we were living on the compliments we received, and the number of people who praised us.
And till today, we think that our worth is determined by the way others perceive us. Thus, we want our boss to happy with our work, we want our partners to constantly praise us, we want to be noticed, and we want to be appreciated.
Slowly, and gradually, this will harm us. Seeking approval and validation from others will change into a permanent, life-long struggle if we don't start believing in ourselves.
Stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself – carefully. Speak to your reflection.
Tell your reflection you are beautiful, you are strong. Tell your reflection that you appreciate yourself, that you love yourself, that you want to make yourself happy. Tell your reflection that you'll be there for yourself.
Because, sooner or later, you will realize that there is no one who will always be there for you, there is no one who can constantly praise you, appreciate you, and keep you happy. That is your job. And that job begins by believing that you can. 👍🏼
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